Let's put a smile on that face

Someone read my blog in the recent past.  Of course someone did, it's made for others to read if they would like.  It's certainly not a requirement, but it's there for others to read at their discretion.  He was making a comment about a recent entry that commented on my get together at an eatery with a supposed former FBI agent.  He was rude, vain and self centered, and he left with barely a good-bye uttered.  I think he thought I was crazy, certainly beneath him in terms of intelligence and whatnot.  I have been told that I don't smile enough.  People think that I am cold and unfeeling because of it.  I don't see the point of smiling when you don't need to.  Walk around with a big smile on your face and people think that you're crazy or having a conversation with an imaginary friend.  Nothing is really better than to have a strait face.  I've seen women of all ages who think they can get away with having a bright smile on their faces, learned at a child that cute little girls who hand out smiles and batting eyelashes will win friends and influence people.  I guess I never learned to do that the right way.  Plus with all the stabs and rotten that people have thrown my way over the years, I have learned to be cautious and stand-offish with others.  Out of curiosity, however, I did look up what men tend to find most attractive about women.  The following seem to be the most sighted traits:

  • Smile a lot - Women who smile a lot are seen as happy, approachable, and friendly.  It also makes you look self confident.
  • Self-confidence - If you aren't really self-confident, at least pretend you are or project it onto others.  Years ago someone told me that I am not really self confident, I just act like it to cover up how I really feel about myself, which is not all that much.  I told him just what I thought of him and he got all offended.  Ah well.
  • Be a challenge - This does not mean not returning phone calls or not accepting a get together after Wednesday (a.k.a. The Rules).  This means not chasing the man but letting the man do all the work towards making things happen. 
  • Be funny - Make others laugh.  Duh!
  • Cool - They like girls who are cool, in the fact that they don't have a constant drama or fill up their days with every little detail or long winded stories. 
  • Be thin - If you get fat, people don't take you seriously.  If you don't believe it, let it happen to you.
  • Have your life in order - Hard to do today, but if your life is in order the right way you'll be able to be much happier and more efficient and more appealing. 
  • Be mysterious - Don't tell every little thing about yourself, let it be a mystery for a while.  Why?  It benefits you in the end so that people don't take information about you and use it against you, even trivial things like admitting your favorite color is blue.
So follow these bullet points and you will be beating them off with a stick, right?  BULLSHIT.  They'd rather have trash.  Do what they want, they hate you.  Defy them, they hate you even more.  Instead they would rather have someone who is lesser than they are, so don't even bother.  They come up with some stupid reason or excuse as to why they feel they are superior to you or they don't want you.  You're beautiful?  Doesn't mean shit.  You're wealthy?  Doesn't mean shit either.  Instead they choose some trashy woman who will use and abuse them, has two or three kids from their previous marriages/relationships, etc. 

Said same friend who said I need to smile more to attract men is the same who said that he thinks women become bitter after a certain point.  I think the second has taken effect rather than the first.  No way am I going to smile more and attract another to come closer just so they can hang me out to dry again.

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