What really matters
Got a message in my inbox today from someone. It doesn't matter who it was/is, but it was hurtful. Needless to say we are no longer friends in real life or online. In the Facebook / Internet world, relationships have taken on a new dynamic that they have not before. This made me think about so much that I have not before. And don't say you can't relate, because it has happened to you at some point as well, either before or after the online world.
I suppose much of it is human nature, we somehow like to take a person who is or was very successful and put them down for their faults or mistakes. We look at others and see the things that they have, be they material or subliminal, and if you don't keep it under control you can let your jealousy overtake you. Look at them for those skinny legs or those jewels or all that happiness they seem to have, I want that but I can't have it. You're not alone, most people in this country are overweight or doing less financially than they would have liked or are lacking someone or something that they wish they had. Elizabeth Taylor could have done nothing else after she made the movie National Velvet but all of a sudden she got fat and it was like she wasn't allowed to live. One of the neighbors on my mom and dad's street purchased one of the houses near them, a few years later there was a foreclosure sign on it. Someone you were with for a few months dumps you, meets someone else and moves in with them a few weeks later because he was looking for someone to take care of him and you were not that person. And it leaves you disappointed, because you were just going about your business and all of a sudden you are at the center of a storm. Instead of being happy with things, you are told you should be ashamed of yourself.
The biggest challenge is to tell yourself that you should not be ashamed. And even if you find yourself being ashamed of what they called you on, you must learn to say to yourself "who cares"? The key is to keep a few things in mind when we are struck with these public or private displays of shunning. In the end, it does not matter what any does or doesn't think about you. People will forget about you about you ten minutes after you die anyway. You have to be exactly who and what you want to be. Most are coasting along on phony public relations, saying that being beautiful or rich or thin makes them happy, saying that their marriages or their children and things are better than they actually are. Many claim that they are deeply religious people and they are perfectly terrible to others who do not share their opinions. Some claim that they were cheated or missed out on an opportunity to do something better or greater than what they have. And even more claim to be victims of those past. And for what? Appearances. Appearances do not count for anything. When it's all been said and done what counts is what was true, and truly felt, and how we treated one another. And that's it.
I suppose much of it is human nature, we somehow like to take a person who is or was very successful and put them down for their faults or mistakes. We look at others and see the things that they have, be they material or subliminal, and if you don't keep it under control you can let your jealousy overtake you. Look at them for those skinny legs or those jewels or all that happiness they seem to have, I want that but I can't have it. You're not alone, most people in this country are overweight or doing less financially than they would have liked or are lacking someone or something that they wish they had. Elizabeth Taylor could have done nothing else after she made the movie National Velvet but all of a sudden she got fat and it was like she wasn't allowed to live. One of the neighbors on my mom and dad's street purchased one of the houses near them, a few years later there was a foreclosure sign on it. Someone you were with for a few months dumps you, meets someone else and moves in with them a few weeks later because he was looking for someone to take care of him and you were not that person. And it leaves you disappointed, because you were just going about your business and all of a sudden you are at the center of a storm. Instead of being happy with things, you are told you should be ashamed of yourself.
The biggest challenge is to tell yourself that you should not be ashamed. And even if you find yourself being ashamed of what they called you on, you must learn to say to yourself "who cares"? The key is to keep a few things in mind when we are struck with these public or private displays of shunning. In the end, it does not matter what any does or doesn't think about you. People will forget about you about you ten minutes after you die anyway. You have to be exactly who and what you want to be. Most are coasting along on phony public relations, saying that being beautiful or rich or thin makes them happy, saying that their marriages or their children and things are better than they actually are. Many claim that they are deeply religious people and they are perfectly terrible to others who do not share their opinions. Some claim that they were cheated or missed out on an opportunity to do something better or greater than what they have. And even more claim to be victims of those past. And for what? Appearances. Appearances do not count for anything. When it's all been said and done what counts is what was true, and truly felt, and how we treated one another. And that's it.
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