Missed opportunities

Many people in life, myself included, have missed out on opportunities.  Sometimes it was a scheduling conflict, a transportation issue, or a demand from another party that stopped us from doing something we really wanted to do.  Some of the thing we miss out on are trivial, some a serious, and many are somewhere in between.  A person who chronically does this is a person who does not wish to socialize and also criticize those who want to do social things.  Essentially, this is what the person "does for a living": In that they choose not to have a social life and rip apart the self esteem of others around them.  They find fault or reason as to how and why someone should not do something, it's a waste of time, it's ridiculous, it's boring, etc.  All or some of these observations may be true, but the ultimate problem is that the one who constantly does this is setting themselves up for a lifetime of regrets.  No one regrets that they took that crazy trip to a distant land, met that person they idolized, achieved that great dream.  People regret that they did not do those things when they had a chance to do so.  Why do they reject these things?  Aside from the want and need to ruin things for other people, it's because they are insecure.  Something within themselves is not right and they seek to do as much outward damage, in this case, in a passive aggressive way.

Something happened.  It was a blip on the news if that, a celebrity death went down.  It was a celebrity death that no one noticed.  Without getting into too many details about this individual no one knows and the past, there was an individual from the past who was fathered by this individual.  To protect privacy matters, I will not reveal the names or identities.  But this man is now not with us anymore, and I told the person in question to resolve it by reaching out to him.  He claimed he didn't know where to call.  I said that was bullshit, in the digital age do you think that anyone can't ever find out anything let alone a simple phone number?  He had fan club pages, he knows you exist.  And did he try something else other than whine?  No, he didn't.  Just a few weeks ago, the celebrity father died suddenly (cause unreleased as of now).  The old me would have reached out to the party in question to offer a word or two of comfort now that this harsh blow has been dealt to him, but not the new me.  Thanks to him, I learned a lot of things in that all the encouragement and love and whatever positive feelings may do for someone, evil will prevail.  The sloth of not wanting to do things to make others just as miserable as they are, the emotions of all that innocent love for others and wanting to make a difference is not going to make others better, when left to the choices of free will, evil will prevail.

So I say to the individual who is no doubt going through a bit of an emotional state at the moment when they found out about the death of this person is once again, you missed an opportunity.  You had all this time to reach out and you chose not to because you were just afraid.  And now, you're really alone.  So as you sit in your cabin in the woods all alone without a friend or acquaintance around for miles and miles, know that you have chosen to live like this not for lack of trying on my or anyone else's parts, but your own cowardly, easy choices.  You're so stubborn, which is the evil sloth within you that you choose to listen to, which has caused you to not reach out to others, and to ultimately severe all communications with the outside world and the voices of reason.  For this I offer nothing but a cold shoulder now.  The guy died, and you did not reach out when you had all these years of chances either for him to reject or accept you.  You made a decision, just like you did when you said you didn't want to go to the party, threw a tantrum over not being included, and made no apology about the fact that you just forgot that I invited you to begin with.

And so it is.